Destination Wedding - Planning Activities for Out of Town Family
My brother was married in Las Vegas in August. He lives in Chicago. My father, other brother and his wife flew to Las Vegas for the wedding. I live in California and drove with my boyfriend to Las Vegas for the wedding. My brother's wife's side of the family came from California as well.
After the wedding my side of the family left the reception and didn't want to bother my brother and new wife. Later we found out that they and her side of the family and friends all went out. Should they have called us to invite us?
We didn't want to bother them and waited for them to call. They insist that if we wanted to spend time with them we should have called them. We feel that we spent the money to come to the wedding, they should have included us in at least some of their plans.
Sunday after the wedding my brother called to say his wife and his friend's wife were going shopping and I might be able to catch them in the hotel room if I wanted to go shopping. I feel that he or his wife should have called earlier and asked myself as well as my other brother's wife if we wanted to go shopping.
I'm not asking for engraved invitations, but I don't think we should be an afterthought.
Aside from a dinner the night before the wedding, we were not included in anything.
What is the proper etiquette in this situation?
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Re: [debbienovick] Destination Wedding - Planning Activities for Out of Town Family
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Dear Debbie,
The couple isn't obligated to invite their guests to anything. And, if they invite, they are obligated to pay for their guests. But, they are obligated to do something for their guests, which it appears that they did--the dinner. Hopefully, they paid.
However, if everyone but your side of the family went out, they should have told you that they were all going out. It wouldn't have been an invitation, just a form of inclusion.
It appears to me that they didn't know this. It doesn't appear, to me at least, that they meant to exclude you.
Destination Wedding - Planning Activities for Out of Town Family
