For months I've been trying to figure out a way to have a small destination wedding, and a casual reception at home after the wedding takes place. I don't want a large ceremony, but I have a huge family so it's really all-or-none. Also, I'm not really close with my extended family. However, my fiance is. He would really like his aunts and uncles at the ceremony, as well as some cousins. I would love to have them - I know most of them better than my own - but we can't invite his family and not mine. The worst part is, I'd rather have his family there than mine. My fiance has already discussed our potential plans with his extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins) but I haven't discussed any plans with mine b/c I'm not sure what I want to do. I'm afraid that if we forego any sort of wedding, besides eloping!, I'll sacrifice some important things to me, mainly wedding photos and dancing with my new husband. I'm starting to get so frustrated that I'm just about ready to head to Vegas! If we go away to have a small wedding and invite his family we also have to invite mine (right?). But, we can't afford to have all of our aunts and uncles at our destination wedding. What do I do? Will it be possible for me to have the best of both worlds or am I asking for too much?
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Why can't you invite the close family members to your destination ceremony? You are only responsible for paying for attendants lodging. As a mom, I know I wouldn't be happy if my daughter married without me and especially if the groom's parents were invited and I was not.
Have the destination wedding and invite al of the close family members. Then, when you get back you could host a party to celebrate the wedding.
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I agree. This would be best, because if you invited all of his extended family and not yours, your family just may notice and be hurt. It is common, though, to invite one uncle and not others. We are closer to some than to others. But, if we are talking about all as opposed to none, this is where we get into hurting others' feelings. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Destination wedding and reception back at home
