My fiancee and I are planning a destination wedding in Jamaica next June. Originally, family and close friends were going to be invited, but as we really got down to the finances of it, we realized that its just isn't feasible for anyone (us our most of our guests). So we are going just the two of us. We are planning on doing a barbecue type reception with his family in Indiana. My family is in New York and my former maid of honor would like to throw me a shower there along with my mother. It's there way of being included in the wedding in some way. Is that appropriate? To have a shower either before or after a destination wedding, even though no one will be at the wedding? I don't want to seem greedy, but a the same time it seems like a perfect way to include those I love in New york without breaking the bank on anyone's side.
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Re: Destination wedding with a shower?
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Dear Lenonjosh,
We have many posts concerning this. It is best to read them. Plus, this is written in all etiquette books. It is never polite to invite any one to a shower who is not invited to the wedding--never. And, we never include gift information in our invitations. So, none in your reception invitations. This isn't a gift giving event, although some will give anyway.
A shower for many, if not most, destination weddings isn't polite anyway--fewer guests and more expense for them. And, in your case, you have no guests.
Destination wedding with a shower?
