I am having a destiantion wedding with only immediate family going. My parents are paying for the entire thing but the rest of my family expects a party to be thrown. I'm not having a bridal shower or a bachorette party. Is it ok to call the event an engagement party and have it before we leave? Since my family expects a party from us can we register somwhere for the event?
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People may expect anything, but it doesn't mean it needs to happen. We have the right to host or no. But, if you host a party for your wedding, there are rules to follow as some parties are considered by some to be gift related. Many prewedding parties could be gift giving events. So because of this, only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a prewedding party. Plus, it is impolite to invite someone to a prewedding party, which is also a time to share the excitement of the upcoming wedding, and not to the "main" event. It is like saying, "Na na na na na na, you are not good enough to be invited to my wedding!" So, no engagement party for a private wedding.
You may register, but please don't expect gifts. Only those invited and who actually attend are expected to give you a wedding gift. Those attending a reception are not expected to give. Many do, but it is not obligatory.
I agree. I don't think I'd like to be invited to a party to celebrate an upcoming event to which I'm not invited. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Family expects a party before destination wedding
