Getting responses a year in advance for a destination wedding
We are 43 years old. It is my first and my fiancé’s second wedding. We plan on marrying in Costa Rica. We want to send out a "keep date open" card with a warning as to where we are planning on getting married to a lot of people (150, who may or may not be able to go) at least a year in advance of the actual invitations. The card will also make it clear that we are going to have an after wedding party in the town where we are from. I want those who can make it to the wedding to do so, but many people can not go due to career, kids, health, and age, whatever. I want to get a good idea of how many will try to attend well before the invitations are sent out because a lot of planning and arrangements will need to be made very early. I want to ask for an RSVP of "Intent to attend" via in the initial card and set up a website for the responses. I do not want to seem like we are looking for gifts or money etc. but do not want to hurt anyone by not offering the invitation. What is the best way to go about 1) getting a preliminary response of intent to attend or not, and 2) not look like I have my hand out with an after party?
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Re: [crewcalls] Getting responses a year in advance for a destination wedding
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Dear Crewcalls,
The reception is not supposed to be a gift giving event. So, this shouldn't be a worry.
There is no RSVP on save the dates. It is best to include contact information of your travel agent, so this person can keep track of those who may be able to attend. Also, you could email those who are close to you about it.
Normally we do not include the wedding website info on the save the date due to gift registry information on the site. But, if you hide the information and don't refer to it on the first page of your site, you should be fine.
Most of those invited should be contacting you once they receive the save the date anyway. Usually couples know who is intending to attend very early.
All of those who receive a save the date also receive an invitation, even if they have stated that they will not attend.
Getting responses a year in advance for a destination wedding
