My fiance and I are getting married abroad in a somehwat remote location. We are planning to invite only our immediate families and closest friends. We are then going to send an annoucement to everyone else after the wedding. My question revolves around the gift issue. We are both in our 30s and have most everything we need already. We certainly will want to somehow make it clear to the people that actually attend that their $2000 expense to be there at our wedding was gift enough and we will not accept anything else. (I assume that is ok?) How then do we handle the people who are not coming but invited and the people who just receive an announcement? I do not want them to feel pressured to buy us anything. I have had suggestions that I should word it in the announcement that we are not accepting gifts. Is this appropriate? I have already had people ask where we are registered. Help.
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Oct 13, 2004, 8:37 AM
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Invitations and announcements are not a plea for gifts. If your guests wish to give a gift that is their perogative. Please don't say that you would not accept a gift as that would be considered impolite. You should never mention anything regarding gifts in an invitation or announcement since that would assume that you are expecting a gift. If you really do not want gifts then casually pass that sentiment around by word of mouth through family and friends. If asked, of course, you can say that your guests well wishes and/or presence is enough. If you DO receive a gift please accept it graciously and send a thank you note. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Oct 14, 2004, 2:33 PM
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I would agree with TWQ. There will always be those people that really do want to give you a gift, so if you do not want/need any material gifts, you could let the word out through your parents, maid of honor and best man that a donation to a charity of your designation would be appreciated. Honeymoon Experts at TheHoneymoon.com http://www.thehoneymoon.com
Gifts for a Destination wedding
