Guests paying for out of town wedding accomodations
Hi,
My friends are getting married on a cottage resort property. Everyone will be required to commute and, if necessary, stay over night. They have rented the entire resort property for the whole weekend. The property includes some accomodations (camping, cottages, etc.). Although they have already paid for the property, we have recently been told that if we want to stay over on site, we will be charged a fee by the bride and groom to help offset their costs. If we choose to stay over on site, and thus pay, are we still obligated to give them a wedding gift? It seems to me that helping them offset the cost of the wedding would be a gift in and of itself, but they haven't given the hint that this payment would be appreciated in lieu of a gift.
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Unless you are a member of the bridal party you would be expected to pay for your own accommodations. So, since you would have to pay to stay over, if you choose to do so, the couple may actually be doing you a favor by saving you money (sometimes groups get discounted rates) or by saving on transportation from your hotel to the wedding. Even if this is not the case, you're still expected to pay for your own overnight accommodations and send a gift to the home of the bride before the wedding. However, you do have choices. You can choose not to attend or you can choose to select a gift that fits your budget. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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So true. But, it is a cheesy way to do it. The couple really shouldn't be charging their guests to stay. They really should have had the resort management handle all of it in such a way that it didn't appear as though the couple was charging a fee to stay. Appearances do matter.
However, it is true that the fee should be less since they rented the entire resort. Let's hope that they are offering their guests a less expensive option for lodging. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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I thought it was sort of cheesy too. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Guests paying for out of town wedding accomodations
