Guests want to join the wedding ceremony in Hawaii
My fiance and I are planning our wedding ceremony in Hawaii. We have invited immediate family and their spouses only (by word of mouth--no formal invitation). We are going to stay on our Honemoon in Hawaii after the ceremony. When we return, we will have a large reception for everyone who would have been invited to the wedding if we would have had it in our hometown. There are relatives and friends that want to attend the ceremony as well. My feeling is that if they care enough to attend on their own accord (we cannot pay for everyone to come), then they should be welcome to come. Should I put this on my invitations? Or should I just invite everyone to the reception? I don't want to hurt anyones feelings by making it look like they are not welcome in Hawaii at all. So confused!
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Jul 28, 2008, 9:34 AM
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Re: Guests want to join the wedding ceremony in Hawaii
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Dear Roni,
It you invite, you are then a host. So, if you are not prepared to host, it is best not to invite them to your wedding. You can verbally tell them that you are not planning any type of reception or gathering at your wedding site. But if they would like to attend, they would be welcome. This is only for those who say they wish to attend.
Please remember that if someone offers to host a shower for you, it is best to decline, as you are not inviting many to your wedding. Only wedding guests are invited to showers.
Guests want to join the wedding ceremony in Hawaii
