Hosting a wedding shower for a destination wedding
Hi, I am planning a wedding shower for my older sister. She is having a destination wedding In Florida this April. She is only planning on inviting about 20 people (close family and a few close friends since the cost of the resort is pretty high!!). However this summer my parents are holding a HUGE reception in our hometown to celebrate the wedding since not everyone will be able to attend. Therefore, my Mother and I were wondering what is the proper etiquette of planning a wedding shower for a destination wedding?
We have a rather large family, so would it be "proper" to invite the whole family to the wedding shower even though they are not invited to the wedding(but they will be invited to the reception!)
If you see this as un-etiquette can you give me a few suggestions on what I can do help her celebrate her wedding day before her actual wedding day!
Thanks for your help :)
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Re: [wdrew7865] Hosting a wedding shower for a destination wedding
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Dear wdrew,
Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a shower, so this would not be proper. Plus, you and your mother wouldn't be involved in the planning or hosting. You could only if you were also an attendant. For a wedding this small, it would be impolite to ask any of the guests for a second present anyway.
You could host a non gift giving tea, but then again it isn't polite to invite those not invited to the wedding. It is like saying that the guests are not good enough to be invited.
Why not take your sister out for a sister outing--some private time with just you two?
Re: [wdrew7865] Hosting a wedding shower for a destination wedding
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I agree. Plus, we have several posts regarding this same issue so please search for answers before posting new. This leaves the experts time to answer new questions.
Thanks. Have a good trip. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Hosting a wedding shower for a destination wedding
