We live in LA, and our ideal destination wedding would be chartering a yacht on the SF Bay. Our problem is the yacht has a maximum capacity of 30. Several friends we have known since childhood have already indicated that they are planning on attending our wedding and just waiting to know where and when. Unfortunately with the yacht choice, we can only include immediate family and a few mutual friends.
As a result, we are exploring other wedding options which could include everyone, but they just don't feel right. Another alternative we have thought of is additional receptions in both Northern and Southern California (but budget is an issue).
If we stay with our first choice and marry in the SF Bay - how can we explain to our longtime friends that they can't come to the actual wedding? Are invitations to a reception an acceptable answer? Is there a way to avoid hurting feelings or alienating our friends? We don't know what to do and would love to hear some suggestions.
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [CynthiaB] How Can We Explain Our Plans?
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Dear How Can We Explain,
Here's an idea--you could have a couple small gatherings with minimal food (it could even be pot luck) at your home, and the homes of friends or family. This could be considered a reception or better yet a 'get to know the married couple party'.
Now for my favorite part--During this time you could play a continuously running recording of your wedding on the television. I often do this as a slide show with my photos. This will help all of your friends and family feel as if they were there with you. And, with the homey atmosphere of a home they will feel closer to you.
How Can We Explain Our Plans?
