A friend of mine is planning a destination wedding. I was honored when she asked that I be her maid of honor. However, I think what she is doing is way too much and I'm starting to think that she only thinks about herself. She will be having 3 ceremonies. The first one will be at home and the only attendees will be the best man and I, she does not plan on telling anyone about that ceremony and the ceremony will be performed by a judge because her marriage would not be legalized here. Then she has the actual destination wedding ceremony, which I will also be attending, and finally, the 3rd ceremony which she plans on having after she returns from the destination wedding. The last one she plans on having approximately 250 people so that she can have the whole reception and also her marriage blessed. As the maid of honor, I would be hosting her bridal shower, her bachelorette party and attending "ALL 3" weddings.
She is my best friend and also has no family members that will be attending her destination wedding, not even their own parents.
Would I be wrong for telling her that enough is enough and that she is asking for too much??? I am a single parent of 3 wonderful children and I feel that she is expecting way too much of me. I also forgot to mention that she is not paying for my stay at the destination wedding.
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edited by tiki4 on Jun 11, 2009, 5:49 PM)
You would not be out of line at all. Your friend is the one who is out of line. Three weddings is two too many.
Sooner or later, word will get out and this may cause hard feelings among the guests. As a true friend, you would be doing her a favor to voice your opinion.
It is unfortunate that so many "celebrities" have made this huge faux pas seem proper, but it is far from it. I completely agree that she should only have one wedding. The other two are pretend weddings and not fair or polite for her guests. She is, in affect, tricking them. They are under the impression that they are attending a wedding, so they owe her a gift. They don't.
You are not being impolite to refuse. In fact, it might be good to point her in our direction for advice if it isn't too late.
How Much is Too Much
