How many pre-wedding parties for destination wedding?
My fiancee and I are planning a destination wedding this coming June. Currently, we have about 70 people who will be making the trek with us. The majority of the financing and guests are coming from the bride's mother.
In addition to the wedding, there's a bridal shower being put on by friends of the mother-of-the-bride.
The bridal party is looking into doing a bachlorette party and the groomsmen will be looking to get a stag night put together.
The bride's father (separated parents), would like to host a wedding reception in July back at home for those who couldn't attend the wedding.
We now seem to have people asking us if we'll be having a stag and doe as well, specifically by those not attending the wedding.
We're just curious, but doesn't this seem too much? Wouldn't we be asking everyone of too much to attend some, if not all these events? Even if it isn't necessarily by invite, we're afraid some will still feel obligated to come.
Thanks
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Re: How many pre-wedding parties for destination wedding?
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Dear FLWedding,
For the destination wedding, many times it is best to forego any type of prewedding party, as it is expensive for the guests to attend the wedding and there are usually fewer attending. We don't ask all, or most all, of our wedding guests to give two gifts and to pay for our parties, especially when they are already paying more to attend our wedding.
Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to any prewedding party. And, the friends of parents shouldn't be hosting any of them unless they are also very good friends of the couple. The shower is definitely not polite or proper. It is best to thank the hosts and decline.
The bachelor and bachelorette parties could be fine as long as these only include those attending the wedding and the couple doesn't request it.
So, you are right that this is too much and could appear as if you two are the ones who want extra attention and gifts.
How many pre-wedding parties for destination wedding?
