How to ask the groom if he's paying for lodging for destination wedding
Hi,
I am in the wedding party for one of my good friends in a destination wedding. It is in within the US but we still have to travel. I've read on this site that the groom is expected to pay for 2-3 nights of lodging. A couple of the other groomsmen and I have discussed this and have wondered why this has not been mentioned so far. Is it rude to ask the groom if he is going to pay for the lodging? If not, how to I go about doing it? I don't want to offend him.
Side note: the couple is well off so money would not be an issue.
Thanks.
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Dear Joselave,
The couple is responsible for paying for at least one night's lodging for those who must travel. If the wedding is at a location where the attendants must fly in, then it is only fair for the couple to pay for at least 2 night's lodging since their attendants will have to fly in, participate at the wedding, and then fly out another day.
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Thank you for the input but how do you suggest I go about doing it? Or what should I say without offending him?
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If it were me, I'd discuss it in private by beginning with, "You probably already know this, but I thought I'd mention it just in case." From there you can inform him that you've read that it is proper...and didn't want him to be embarrassed if he didn't know. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
How to ask the groom if he's paying for lodging for destination wedding
