A close friend asked me to be her MOH for her wedding in Jamaica. I gladly accepted and offered to help her in any way possible. We live quite far apart but still I managed to take her dress shopping, plan her pre-wedding parties and also assist her with any of the planning details that came up. Through this whole process she changed her mind about so many of her details (she took back the ring her fiancee bought her to upgrade it, she bought 2 wedding dresses because she didn't like the first one, she changed the bridesmaid dress colors a few times, etc.) I was still patient and supported her and what she wanted all of the time without saying anything to her. About 3 and a half months before her wedding we had a minor argument (and I mean VERY minor). Although it was a silly argument I thought it would blow over and I apologized although it was no one's "fault". I emailed, called, left messages MANY times (I would have went to visit her but she lived too far away). She NEVER responded. I called and emailed her asking about the wedding and still she never responded or returned my calls and messages. At first I was worried about her, then I thought that maybe the wedding was called off but found out it was still on. Finally I sent her an email asking if she still wanted me there...no response. Then I called to say that I would NOT be going to her wedding if she did not at least return my calls or letters. With no response and being blatantly ignored after all the work I put into her big day I feel that this action was reasonable on my part. I have no idea why she think I don't deserve a response and I am tired of begging her to be my friend. My questions is: does she owe me for the deposit I paid on the trip to Jamaica I booked to stand as her maid of honor??? I was going to just forget about it since her wedding is here and gone but I too am getting married this upcoming year and feel that it is not fair to have to put my own cash out on a very unappreciative "faux friend" and since ruining our friendship is no longer a great concern I was wondering if it would be okay to ask for it.
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She hasn't responded to any of your emails or calls so I doubt she'll respond to this request. I'd write it off and move on with my own wedding. You have more important things to focus on now.
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Ignored, hurt bridesmaid wants reimbursement
