I'm not having bridesmaids- should I still get a shower?
I am getting married in the Caribbean at an all-inclusive in December and my fiance and I have decided not to have a wedding party since we cannot afford to pay for any of their accomodations for any portion of the trip.
I would like someone to throw me a bridal shower prior to the wedding, but no one has offered. I have hinted at this with a couple of my girlfriends (I was the MOH for one, a bridesmaid for another) but no one seems interested. Is it wrong that I was hoping my close friends would throw me a shower despite not being in my bridal party? I worked hard when I was in their weddings, so I dont think it is too much to ask that they throw me a party. I wonder if they are bent out of shape because I am not having bridesmaids, or is it maybe because they feel they are already spending enough money to come to the wedding itself (it is costing approx $3500 per couple for the week, all inclusive).
Any advice is appreciated!
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This is pretty typical when having a destination wedding since your guests will have to spend a good deal of money just to travel to your wedding. The guest list is usually smaller for destination weddings too, so a bridal shower is often omitted.
That being said, you never know if someone is planning a shower or not. it could be a surprise. But, if they aren't planning a shower don't consider this a slight or a barometer on which to gauge your relationship. These are still people who love you if they are willing to drop a good buck to travel to see you get married. To expect them to incur more cost to host a shower and buy gifts may be too much to expect in this economic climate. Besides, most of us don't really need a shower anymore.
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Thanks for setting me straight- maybe I am expecting too much from them!
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Well put! I couldn't agree more with all of that great advice. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I'm not having bridesmaids- should I still get a shower?
