We are getting married in the caribbean. There will be only 15-20 guests - our children and our close friends. Our save the dates went out some time ago. We are sending invitations out this week. My fiance wants to invite a couple I consider to be acquaintances. We live in the same condo complex in the summertime. We've had drinks with them, and went to dinner with them once. We've never been to their full time home. We have been invited to their wedding, but they've invited everyone in the complex, and it's their first. Ours is an intimate affair, far away and costly! I don't know why my fiance is making an issue of this, (which may be the real problem). I feel it is too late to ask them for one, presumptuous to ask them to spend the money to do so, (although I guess that would be their decision) and inappropriate to include them in our intimate affair. My fiance feels that it is our 2nd wedding, they are a fun couple and we should invite whomever we want and it's just about having fun. Is he right....am I being uptight?
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Is this a second wedding or vow renewal? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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It's a 2nd wedding.......does that matter?
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The only reason it would be a difference is that the vow renewal shouldn't be considered a wedding. There are some who treat it the same, when it is clearly different.
Your fiance is correct that you should be able to invite anyone you wish, even if this were a first wedding. But, I do agree with you that if you have kept your guest list tight, to only include those very close to you, it just wouldn't seem right to invite those who are not, especially at the last moment. In fact, inviting them at the last moment, or at such a time that they may have a difficult time finding inexpensive flights, it may insult them. They might feel as if you are inviting them to get a gift or just to appease them. Of course they may feel as if they are closer to you than you wish them to be too. In any case, it may be better to keep your list as it is.
Inviting an aquaintance to destination wedding
We are getting married in the caribbean. There will be only 15-20 guests - our children and our close friends. Our save the dates went out some time ago. We are sending invitations out this week. My fiance wants to invite a couple I consider to be acquaintances. We live in the same condo complex in the summertime. We've had drinks with them, and went to dinner with them once. We've never been to their full time home. We have been invited to their wedding, but they've invited everyone in the complex, and it's their first. Ours is an intimate affair, far away and costly! I don't know why my fiance is making an issue of this, (which may be the real problem). I feel it is too late to ask them for one, presumptuous to ask them to spend the money to do so, (although I guess that would be their decision) and inappropriate to include them in our intimate affair. My fiance feels that it is our 2nd wedding, they are a fun couple and we should invite whomever we want and it's just about having fun. Is he right....am I being uptight? 
