We have been dating for two years but we each live in 2 cities about 8 hours apart. We are planning a destination wedding in Florida with about 35 guests. We were going to host a reception in my fiancee's home town, but I am thinking it would be more appropriate in my home town, because my guest list to the wedding in Florida is much shorter--I have only invited my parents and my children. My fiancee has invited about 28 people on his side. To complicate things a little further, we both work for a company in his home town (I am based elsewhere) and a lot of our mutual work friends are in his home town. This is my second wedding and his first. I am feeling badly about making my parents travel again for a reception to his home town but I would also feel badly about making his family who is coming to the wedding to travel again to my home town but there are people in his family not going to Florida who are looking forward to a reception.
Also, do we have to have a reception? Do you recommend just announcements? We are having a nice sit down dinner in Florida after the wedding and we are starting to wonder why we are having a reception except to include friends and family whom we did not invite to the wedding in Florida due to budget. Would it be strange to have informal receptions in both home towns? I was thinking a reception is a time for both families to meet, but on the other hand, his parents and my parents will get to know each other better in Florida.
What is a good solution? I am flexible. Thanks!
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Jun 1, 2007, 2:49 PM
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Re: [lauram362] Long Distance Romance/Destination Wedding
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Dear Lauram,
A second reception is not mandatory. If all of your wedding guests are invited to the dinner after the wedding, you have been a good host. If you want to host two, informal reception in both home towns, it would be fine. This is very common.
Long Distance Romance/Destination Wedding
