MOH & bridesmaid arriving to destination wedding before the bride
We are planning on going away to an island to get married next year. My matron of honor, another bridesmaid, and their husbands want to arrive a few days earlier than the rest of the large group. They are a clique and want their own mini vacation to themselves before we all get there. I don't think they like all the other people that will be there, or at least don't want to hang out with them. I wanted everyone to arrive as a group so it would be nice for everyone to see it all together first, especially me! Am I just being a brat, or are they being rude? I feel like they are making it more about them than my wedding. I may want to change my mind about who's in the wedding party. I really need your help. How can I tell people when to arrive when they are spending their own money to attend?
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Weddings by Shayna
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Respectfully, it is very selfish to ask people to spend considerable money to join you for your celebration, then dictate that they can't get there first and start the fun without you. The whole wedding day is going to be about you - be happy that they are so enthusiastic about the location that you chose that they even want to get there early.
You're bound to have guests who like each other and those who don't. It doesn't make them a clique - it makes them friends. If you're going to enjoy this planning process at all, spend more time being concerned with the reason for the celebration, and less time trying to control how others will act. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design
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Great advice! I couldn't agree more. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
MOH & bridesmaid arriving to destination wedding before the bride
