Must I invite future sister in-laws to be bridesmaids in destination wedding
My Fiance's family is very well off (which I didn't know until months after we started dating). I was warned by other family members that his sisters were snobby to say it nicely. His parents had even admitted that they know how she is & are trying to "break" her of it. They said they realize she will never have any friends, boyfriend or social life. I never had a problem until a few months ago. His youngest sister is in college & is very spoiled, rude & just plain ignorant but had never spoke to me that way up until a few months ago. (the first time I seen the way she spoke to her parents & they said nothing my jaw dropped. In my family you would have gotten your butt kicked) Well to say the least I am not her family & will not toleralte someone 11 years younger speaking to me that way, I confronted it when it happened. Of course his parents sided with her which is fine that is there daughter. We are going to Mexico to be married next year, my sister said that I have to ask his sisters to stand up in the wedding. We decided to try to keep it small, 4 people in bridal party. Do I need to ask them to stand up? I never talk to them unless at a family function which rarely occurs. I want my 2 best friends to be with me up there. Also to make a long story short my Fiance & I were in a horrible accident last year & as one of the outcomes of all the stress from surgeries I was diagnosed with Lupus. I do not need the additional stress of two people that are just permanently unhappy. Stress can trigger Lupus flares as well as the sun so I need this wedding to go as smoothly as it can for my health.
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Re: [kerrie78] Future Sister In Laws
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Kerri -
I'm sorry these parents refuse to parent their daughters and teach them right from wrong. Another victim of the entitled child syndrome! Read the attached article which I think you'll find interesting.
There is no reason you have to ask these girls to be in the wedding party. If you and your fiance agree, then let him explain to his sisters that the bridal party is going to be limited. Be sure to allow him to deliver this news so they know it isn't just coming from you.
Good luck with these ladies. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Must I invite future sister in-laws to be bridesmaids in destination wedding
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