No bridal party but would still like to honor friends
We are planning a destination wedding in St. John in December. This is my second wedding, and my fiance's first. We are leaning toward not having a bridal party (which from reading other posts, it SEEMS this is OK since it is a beach wedding and will not be as formal). We feel this will avoid potentially hurt feelings as we'll need to choose some over others. Also, it avoids the burden of feeling they have to attend since they are in the party. Finally, it saves money for everyone- no buying dresses and we aren't required to pay for lodging. I can't help, however. feeling that we'll be viewed as being cheap and our friends will feel as though we don't value them. Is there anything special I can do to honor them even though I have no actual bridal party?
Thank you- the information I've found has been very helpful.
Etiquette Now
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Apr 20, 2008, 2:17 PM
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Re: [Tomato] No bridal party but would still like to honor friends
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Dear Tomato,
I really can't imagine anyone feeling that you are cheap just because you decide not to have attendants. It is actually a generous gesture in the case of the destination wedding for all the reasons you state. So, perhaps you could plan a engagement party and invite some of those you are inviting to the wedding. This may help them feel as if they are part of the planning process. Ask someone close to 'get the word out' that this is not a gift giving event.
Of course, as long as you are having some sort of gathering or reception at your destination site, or at home, your loved ones will know you care about them and want to share your excitement with them.
No bridal party but would still like to honor friends
