My sister just announced that she and her boyfriend are having a baby and are getting married this summer. They already had a cruise vacation booked for the end of August, so they are turning that into a private destination wedding. My sister has phobias about walking down an aisle and being the center of attention (our dad died the morning of her highschool graduation), so they are not inviting anyone to the wedding, not even family.
My mother wants to plan a party for them so family and friends can celebrate, but the best time for everyone would be at the beginning of August. What exactly do we call this party? My mother says it should be a shower, but I think since they aren't having a reception after the wedding, no one is attending the wedding, and the party is for all family and friends that this is more than just a shower and is a pre-wedding reception. We're at a loss how to word the invites and what exactly to call the party.
Help!
TWQadmin
FORUM EXPERT
/ Moderator
Post #2 of 2
(605 views)
Re: Party before a destination wedding/elopement
[In reply to]
I'm sorry for your loss. I can see why your sister might not want to walk down the aisle without your dad. Bittersweet. I hope she has given this decision a lot of thought and she's sure she won't regret marrying without her loved ones alongside and without all of the traditional elements of wedding like the shower. The pre-wedding parties are only for wedding guests, so, since she isn't inviting guests, there should not be any pre-wedding parties.
Not to worry, you can all celebrate the wedding with a reception, however, it should take place after the wedding and can be done up to a year after (but should be done as close to the wedding as possible).
Please review the many posts we have had prior regarding these same party issues. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Party before a destination wedding/elopement
