We are having a destination wedding in Jamaica for my daughter. We are paying for ourselves, the bride and groom, the groom's parents and brother to attend. Is it appropriate to send invites to other family and friends to see if they want to attend at their own expense or just send announcements? We will be having a reception in our hometown when we return where we will be inviting over 125 guests. We would like others to attend but I don't want to pay for everyone to go to Jamaica.
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Re: Paying for Guests to Attend Destination Wedding
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Dear Dgyearsley,
We have many, many posts concerning destination wedding etiquette, many focused on inviting guests and what the couple (in your case you) are obligated to pay for. The host is only obligated to pay for lodging of the attendants. So, you were generous to pay for the groom's parents.
If the couple wishes to invite other guests to their wedding they may. Guests are responsible for their costs. However, the host is also responsible for providing "something" for their guests. That "something" is usually some sort of reception at the destination location. It could also be a welcome cocktail or basket though.
Invitations and announcements are entirely different and not interchangable. Invitations invite, announcements are sent after the event, to only those who need to know and were not invited to the event. The couple would send invitations to those invited to the home reception and not announcements of their wedding.
Paying for Guests to Attend Destination Wedding
