I have reviewed several posts, but still need advice on throwing a casual party before my destination wedding. My fiance and I are traveling alone to elope and do not plan to invite anyone to the wedding itself. We had discussed throwing a small casual reception at home immediately upon our return, but a party shortly beforehand would better accommodate our immediate family traveling. I understand holding a reception within a year is acceptable, but I would like to hold something within 1-2 months of the date.
I do want to celebrate our engagement and do want our families to meet, but I do not expect or want gifts from the guests. If this is acceptable, what do I call the party on the invitation so that guests do not feel obligated to bring gifts, since nobody is being invited to the wedding? I saw many posts in which your advice was to hold a reception afterward, but due to special circumstances, I am afraid a party beforehand would best accommodate everyone.
Your circumstances really aren't any different than the thousands of couples who have eloped or plan on eloping, sorry. As per modern wedding etiquette, only those invited to the wedding should be invited to any pre-wedding party. This includes the engagement party which is not a gift giving event. We have many posts addressing pre-wedding parties such as showers and engagement parties too.
Perhaps it would be best for you to host an informal party for the families to meet. There do not have to be invitations sent for an informal gathering like this. Simply call the guests and invite them, explaining the reason for the party.
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