My parents are not in favor of a destination wedding, but this is what we want. Also, his parents want a full blow out reception when we return, we don't. We have a 4 month old baby and don't have the money to host a party for upwards of 150 people. They say its not European and its rude to do something small. How should I let them know this is not what we want? Is what they say true? Please help.
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Re: Pressure from parents to have a big wedding
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As a parent, I can understand why yours don't want you to fly off and get married without them. But, if this is your intention, try to explain why you want this type of ceremony. Perhaps there can be some sort of compromise made if the lines of communication are opened. This can happen easier if you explain your reasons and feelings.
I have never heard that it is customary for Europeans to only host huge weddings. A reception when you return can be of any size you like and can afford to host. If the groom's parent's really want this for you, maybe they will offer to host it. Again, explain that you are not financially capable of paying for a huge event like this. If they offer, and you're willing to abide by their planing ideas (hopefully they would give you a lot of input) you can certainly accept. But, you cannot ask them to host this.
Again, have a sit down with the clan to discuss all of these issues.
Good luck with whatever decision you make. It is your life and your decision. Just remember that your parents love you and want the best for you. Consider that they just don't want to miss out on seeing their children marry and celebrate the event. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. And there are a lot of old traditions from all over the world that just don't seem to fit in with our lives now. Not hosting a huge wedding/reception event (s) is not impolite. So, not following this tradition, if it still is one, is fine. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Pressure from parents to have a big wedding
