I am part of a destination wedding in July. The Bride and Groom have decided that not only will they not be paying for our lodging (we are attendents), but they will also have the "reception" BEFORE the wedding. They mentioned that this "reception" will allow them to receive money needed to pay for the wedding. They are also letting people know in the invitations for the "reception" that they would like money for their "honeymoon" which is actually just an extended few days in the destination.
I'm sorry, but....HOW RUDE! Did I mention that this is a SECOND wedding between two people ages 28 and 37? I don't know if that matters, but I had always thought that for a second wedding, you incur all costs. I hate to be a naysayer, but I am beginning to feel like there sure is a lot expected out of us to make this wedding happen. Am I being ridiculous?
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Dear Reception Before,
Yikes! And, did I say, Yikes! If I were involved, I would run for the hills. I wouldn't want to be associated with this in any way. You are correct that there is nothing proper with this wedding/reception planning. The reception is a party that the couple (or the family) hosts to share their job with friends and family. This isn't supposed to be a donation drive for gambling money.
Do what you must. I doubt that many here would blame you for bowing out. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Reception BEFORE Wedding??
