My fiance is from England, so we're having the wedding in St. Louis (and a reception) and then a week later we're having a second smaller reception in his hometown. We would like to send out Save the Dates soon, and we'd like to include something about the second reception. The thing is, we're not inviting everyone (we would just include an insert with the Save the Dates going to those invited). How do you word the "invite" to the second reception?
These aren't invitations, so there is no formal wording. You would be asking those whom you are going to invite, to hold the date for events. Your second reception save the date could also be sent separately.
Save the date cards are optional. There is no reason you couldn't just verbally inform those you are to invite. Just remember that all who receive the save the dates, whether verbal or written, also receive wedding invitations.
The reason we wanted to get wording was we don't want to step on toes, but we do want to emphasize that it's a small gathering the guest is invited to (the second reception).
I'm guessing you don't want others, those not invited to the second reception, to know about it--avoiding insults. So, why not verbally inform them of your plans and also about the limited guest list. This is the most polite way to get your message across and to make sure everyone knows that you would like this to remain a private affair. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Second Reception Abroad
