Should we bother to send invitations for a destination wedding?
Hello.
Thanks for the website. It's been very helpful so far, but I have a question that I can't seem to find by searching...
My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding in Cuba for May of 2008. We are inviting approximately 50 guests and due to overwhelming interest since we decided what we were doing, expect at least 40 to attend. We have gone through a travel agent and are getting more affordable rates by booking as a group. We have had trouble with the booking for about two months now, but it all came together this past Friday. We had not sent out any save the dates or invitations due to not knowing when the trip was going to be scheduled, let alone the actual wedding date.
Unfortunately, the deposits for each person travelling have to be in by this coming Friday. Since one week in not nearly enough time to get formal invitations out, and we wanted to give our guests as much time as we could, we decided to contact them by phone. We have made the calls and passed along all the information we have about the trip and given contact information for the travel agent so they can put down their deposits if they decide to come.
My question is, where do we stand on save the dates or invitations, since after Friday, we will know exactly who will be attending and who won't? I'd feel silly and even kind of rude sending either to people I know will not be attending, and it seems somewhat redundant to send either to the people I know WILL be coming. I'm just not sure what we should do...
Thanks for your help.
Mandy
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Re: [annacaliusa] Should we bother to send invitations for a destination wedding?
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Dear Mandy,
Your invitations should reflect the formality of your event. So, if this is informal, a phone call is fine. The save the dates are optional. And, in this case, you have already asked everyone to save the date.
If your wedding is formal, it would be best to send formal invitations to all you originally invited even though you believe everyone has booked their trip. There may be some who travel on their own.
Should we bother to send invitations for a destination wedding?
