Is it proper to have a jack & jill shower (selling tickets) and then go away to get married by JP with no guests. I say no, it is not right. To have a reception upon return is OK but not a "shower" first. Please advise.
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Re: [cher1234] Shower etiquette for destination wedding
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You're correct, Cher; it is improper to invite guests to a shower if they are not also invited to the wedding. Furthermore, it is considered tacky, in most social circles, to sell tickets to a shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree, but isn't it also tacky to limit your destination wedding guest list to just a few family/friends, while expanding the post-honeymoon reception list to "anyone who wants to attend"? This seems a bit greedy to me, especially when the bride is asking a family friend to host the reception. I have a feeling the guest list will dwindle down to 20 and want to know if it is poor posture to not attend the post-honeymoon reception if I get cut from the wedding guest list? The bride is a close friend (or so I thought) with whom I talk with daily and I want to do the right thing without getting stepped on.
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Re: [Aimee] Shower etiquette for destination wedding
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It is perfectly acceptable to have the intimate ceremony you desire and then have a reception opon your return; inviting whomever you like. Many couples have wedding ceremonies in curches which have limited seating or have destination weddings for just the immediate family. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Shower etiquette for destination wedding
