I have a question about the choice of resorts for my destination beach wedding. My hubby-to-be and I have chosen a resort in a secluded area, with lots of eco-tourism but no cities or markets. It is also much less expensive than resorts in nearby areas. My mother disagrees with this choice and tells me that I have to be considerate to my guests who may not like the secluded aspect of our chosen resort. I also want to mention that my parents are not helping us pay for this wedding at all. My fiancé and I will be paying for our trip and if any guests want to join us for the week, they will be paying for their own trip (we aren't cheap...we both just finished university and don't have the resources to pay for our guests). I feel that if someone doesn't like the resort we picked, they are not obligated to go. So my question is this: should we go ahead and choose a place that pleases us or do we select a resort that some of our guests may prefer? I'm getting a little frustrated because it seems that everyone has an opinion and it will be impossible to placate everyone.
Honeymoon_Pro
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Jul 17, 2007, 6:49 PM
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Re: [krisanne] choosing the destination
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When I work with brides doing destination weddings, I constantly have to remind them that it is their wedding. There will be someone that is not pleased no matter what you do, so plan YOUR dream wedding and those that love you will participate no matter what you choose.
Re: [krisanne] choosing the destination
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Dear Krisanne,
From an etiquette point of view we always remind couples that if they are inviting guests, they are also hosts. But, for the destination wedding, it is perfectly fine to choose any type of venue. Your guests will decide if they wish to attend or no. As, hosts though, you would be expected to do something for your guests. There should be something especially for them besides being invited to watch you exchange vows.
Be careful with all inclusive resorts. If there is a 'day fee' for your guests who are not staying at your resort to watch you marry, you would be expected to pay the fee. Your guests shouldn't have to pay to attend your wedding.
choosing the destination
