We are having a destination wedding next winter. We've decided to make sure our thirty guests could come to the wedding and are paying for their accomodations for the week (we rented three houses). Our moms were a bit dissapointed that they were unable to invite certain guests....when we found out the villa would allow up to 50 people at the reception, we gave both our moms an additional 10 guests of their choice. (we are not paying for the additional guests accomodations). We are planning a celebration late spring/early summer next year for remaining family and friends that we were unable to invite, or are unable to attend. My Mom would like to have a big shower and invite everyone this fall/winter. I am feeling very uncomfortable with this idea. Everything I've read states that the guests invited to the shower should have also been invited to the wedding. Do you have any thoughts or suggestions?
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Jun 3, 2007, 8:08 PM
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You're right to be concerned. The bridal shower is an optional pre-wedding party. Only wedding guests (not reception guests) closest to you and your groom should be invited. These guests shouldn't be your parents friends unless they are also your friends too.
It was very generous of you to allow your parents to invite a few of their friends (and very generous of you to pay for all of the accommodations). These days the wedding guest list is typically just the friends and family of the couple. Long gone are the days when the wedding was a grand social event for the parents.
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Jun 3, 2007, 9:08 PM
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I couldn't agree more. And bravo, you are very generous. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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