My sister-in-law recently announced that her wedding will be somewhere in the caribbean next winter. All families are in the Northeast US.
What costs are my husband (brother of the bride) and I expected to pay for and what should we reasonably expect to be paid for by my father-in-law (the father of the bride) or by the bride and groom themselves?
I am not sure if my husband will be "in" the wedding, but we are expected to travel to it. Given how our family works, we do not have the option to not go. Travel is a luxury for us and it is not something we take lightly.
The bride is under the impression that people are happy to plan their vacations around her, or just happy to go to the Caribbean. She seems to have an unrealistic idea of the costs incurred by destination weddings and the hardship it can cause to those of us who cannot spare that kind of money.
Please advise.
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edited by TWQadmin on Jul 1, 2008, 10:52 AM)
The couple should pay for your accommodations for at least the night before and the night of the wedding. That is their entire obligation. They may choose to do more, but you can't require them to. You may have a family dynamic that makes you think you cannot decline to attend, but if you don't have the finances, you have a valid reason to decline. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
I agree. But, the couple is only responsible for a couple night's lodging if your husband is in the wedding party (a groomsman). So, if neither of you is an attendant, all costs are your burden.
We all have choices whether or not others agree with us. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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