destination wedding in st. lucia then bridal shower???
I am planning a very small ceremony (my fiance, my parents and myself) in St. Lucia. And then are coming home to have a formal reception 1 month later. I have been telling my friends and family about this and all seem to be on board. My mom asked whether a shower should be planned. Which would be my sisters responsibility. I have read a few comments but am still unsure. if I have a shower with all of those that I am inviting to the reception is that double dipping? i think my sister is thinking of a themed shower because my fiance and I live together and pretty much have all of the household items. Is this wrong?
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Re: [stluciawedding] destination wedding in st. lucia then bridal shower???
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Dear Small Ceremony,
Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower. So, none of the guests who are only invited to the reception may be invited to the shower. A shower, besides being a vehicle for gift receiving, is also supposed to be an event to help your wedding guests feel as if they are a part of your wedding planning. This is impossible in this case.
The other problem here is that close family should not host a shower. If your sister is your honor attendant, it is appropriate. When family members host a gift giving event such as, this family tries to do everything possible to get as many gifts as possible. Sometimes it can get a bit ugly.
Finally, the wedding is the gift giving event, not a reception. Many of your reception guests will probably want to give you something, but it is not expected. The reception is simply the party to celebrate your marriage-- sort of like hosting a party for yourself.
This doesn't not mean that you shouldn't register because so many people do not realize this. Plus, some may even bring gifts with them to the reception.
destination wedding in st. lucia then bridal shower???
