Hi, My fiance and I were planning a 'traditional' wedding for 1 month(nothing confirmed) only to find out the high costs and growling guest list-- which we couldn't afford, so we decided on a destination wedding in Hawaii with just our immediate family.
Since I have a big family, word has spread and several people are planning to go, though I haven't sent out invites and they would feel hurt not getting one. They also know I am having a "luau" when we return, but still want to go to hawaii and willing to pay the costs.
Also, I had originally asked 6 girls (3 family members/3 close friends) to be my bridesmaids for the trad. wedding and told them when we changed to a destination wedding, that they don't have to attend since it's a lot of money for them and it's really a small intimate ceremony with just my fiance and our families. (they know we have a small budget) They still want to go..but we really can't afford to pay for their rooms--also they will be bringing their boyfriends/guests which "increases the headcount for the dinner,activites/receptions. The costs are rising and we didnt plan on all these people going. Either I disinvite guests or NOT pay for attendants rooms? I would rather invite those familly members willing to attend --then having to pay for 12 total bridal party (plus thier guests - approx 24 total) when the BP really won't play a huge role in the "short beach ceremony". What should I do? Thank you so much!
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Jun 3, 2007, 4:53 PM
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Re: [valvillase] disinvite guests or pay for attendants rooms
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Dear Valvillase,
You could simply not invite guests. If they wish to come, then they do. But, they will need to realize that you didn't plan a reception there and cannot do anything special for them in Hawaii.
The same goes for your attendants. You can simply inform them that you cannot really afford to have attendants for this type of wedding. If they still wish to be a part of your wedding, this is their choice. But, everyone would have to know that you are not hosting this, as the 'host' pays.
disinvite guests or pay for attendants rooms
