My husband is one of 12 asked to be in his friend's destination wedding. The wedding is quite an expense for travel and lodging (they offered wedding party lodging, not for guests/spouses) and his tux rental is also quite pricey. We also have to take two days off work as it is a Sunday wedding. The bachelor party is also destination and an additonal expense. With all of these expenses, when we are trying to save money and have had to forgo a vacation of our own as result, what is etiquette for gift giving in this circumstance?
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Re: gift from groomsmen at destination wedding
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Dear Help,
The couple should be paying for your lodging as well. But, we can't enforce it. The bachelor party is optional. He can decline. The gift is not optional though. It can be a shared expense with the other groomsmen.
Re: gift from groomsmen at destination wedding
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You should send a gift to the home of the bride before the wedding. But the gift can/should suit your budget and reflect your relationship with the couple. Wedding couples know, (or should know) that when they host a destination wedding, the guests have expenses they normally wouldn't have for a traditional wedding. It shouldn't be viewed by the wedding couple as the guests' chance for a vacation since it is held at a location that is not of the guests choosing. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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