Our friend is having an out of state wedding. She sent out save the date cards (including hotel booking instructions) 6 months ago and sent out the invitations last week. It turns out that she had "cut" about 30 people from her original list, one of whom is a close friend of ours. This friend (who received a STD card) has already made her travel arrangements, bought a dress and sent a gift and still has no idea that she has been essentially un-invited to the affair.
I'm so aggravated at my friend (the bride) who is insisting that it's really no big deal but still has not communicated to any of these guests that they are not invited. I don't really want to tell my other friend that she isn't going... partly because I'm hoping the bride will see the light and partly because I don't feel it's my place.
I know how stressful wedding planning can be, and I don't want to make things more difficult for the bride-to-be, but I'm so annoyed that I don't even feel like going any more.
Am I making too big a deal out of this?
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Re: [AnnoyedFriend] Out of state wedding save the date cards
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No, you're not making a big deal out of this. The bride is not showing care for her guests. Everyone who receives a save the date card should receive an invitation, even if they say they will not attend. Circumstances will sometimes change.
You had better have a discussion with this bride before she has people really miffed at her or showing up at her wedding anyway. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [AnnoyedFriend] guests got save the date cards but no invitation
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I agree. She is being extremely impolite and uncaring. There is no excuse for her behavior. I would bet (and I'm not a betting person) that she didn't return the gift to your friend.
I hope there is a way to help her see the light before it is too late. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
guests got save the date cards but no invitation
