is it preferred to send invitations to a destination wedding as you would to a wedding at home? my brother lives in california and is getting married in tahoe...we all live in pa....or should invitations only be sent to a small group and then later announcements to all not included to inform them of the event? what are the pros and cons of this? if they are looking for an intimate affair, do you have to invite the large numbers you would to an affair in the hometown? we have for our other family weddings had large guest lists and not sure how to deal with people we know and enjoy that perhaps would not be able to come to this event...what do you suggest?
The easy answer to all of these questions is that it depends on what the couple wants. The couple should send invitations to everyone they want to attend their wedding--just like any other wedding. If they want an intimate affair, they do not have to send invitations to anyone. They would then send announcements after they marry.
It is best for them to send "Save the Date" cards to everyone they wish to invite as soon as possible so these guests can make travel arrangements. Then all of these guests would have to receive invitations later.
so if you have already had certain types of weddings (large in hometown), the remaining siblings should not feel bound to follow those that preceeded them in regards to the guest list from teh other two weddings?
Everyone should have the style of wedding they want and can afford. So, no. They do not have to follow what others have done before them. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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