responsibility for paying for family to attend destination wedding
When planning a desgination wedding, is it the bride's family's responsibility to pay for the hotel and flight expenses for the bride, groom, bride's grandparents, groom's parents, groom's brother, sister and their respective families? Please give guidance on which immediate members we would be responsible for financially.
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All family members are responsible for paying for their own travel and hotel accommodation unless they are members of the bridal party. The bride and groom are responsible for paying for all of their own expenses and the wedding attendants hotel stay, but not for their flight. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thank you for replying. I'm sorry, but I need a little more clarification. If I understand the reply the family members not in the bridal party pay for their own flight and room fees. If the parents of both the groom and the bride, not the bride and groom directly, are paying for the wedding as tradition would dictate, in a destination wedding would the parents of the groom pay for the groomsmen's and best man's hotel accommodations and the parents of the bride pay for the bridesmaids' and maid-of-honor's, or would those hotel expenses of the entire wedding party be the responsibility of just the bride's parents? In otherwords, do the parents of the bride and groom split the costs of the hotel accommodations for the wedding party? When you say that the bride and groom are responsibile for the wedding attendants' hotel stay but not their flight, do you mean that an "attendant" is any wedding guest outside of the wedding party who chooses to attend the wedding? In that case, wouldn't family members who choose to attend be wedding attendants (guests) and have their room accommodations by for as well? If so, would those room fees typically be split between the bride's and groom's parents?
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Wedding attendants are your bridal party members (bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearer, groomsmen, ushers).
Tradition might have, at one time, dictated who pays for a wedding.But, in these modern times, parents are not responsible for paying for their children's weddings. And, as such, anything they give should be considered a gift. Your parents are being very generous by paying for a destination wedding.
If your parents do not offer to pay for your attendants' lodging then it will be your responsibility to do so. In fact, any aspects of the wedding which your parents can't, or don't want to, pay for will be your responsibility. After all, this is your wedding. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I absolutely agree. There are no 'rules' these days of who is ultimately responsible, besides the couple. The bottom line is that couple needs to make sure that their attendants do not incur any lodging costs. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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