My fiance and I are having a destination wedding and we can't wait! My delima is that I'm having two showers. I have been told that if you invite someone to a shower, you must invite them to the wedding?!?! I would prefer to make announcements to non-family, so that no one feels obligated to spend the money. Please help?
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Re: who to invite to shower for destination wedding
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Dear Leahj,
I don't understand your question. Announcements are sent after the wedding to those not invited to either the wedding or reception. Invitations are sent to those attending an event. No one is obligated to spend money unless they agree.
Only those invited to the "wedding" may be invited to a shower, not the other way around.
Most often showers and other prewedding parties are not held when the couple is hosting a destination wedding due to the expense their guests will incur to attend the wedding and the fact that, usually, the guest list is small. We shouldn't expect most if not all of our guests to give two gifts each (wedding and shower). And, to have two showers? That doesn't seem right.
You or your families wouldn't be involved with any of the planning of any shower.
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