My mother-in-law to be is asking too many questions
My fiances mother constantly asks about exact dollar amounts of everything having to do with the wedding. My parents are happy to handle most of the expenses and I don't want our wedding to be about the money. Plus, I don't see the exact costs of every little thing as my future mother-in-law's business. She's the type of person to broadcast every price to the entire family and all of our guests. I don't want to be rude, but I am tired of her questions. My fiance agrees with me, and he's been great about trying to field her questions, but she doesn't seem to get the point and she still asks me when he's not around. I don't want to "cross the line" by saying something myself...but I feel like she's overstepping her bounds, too. Any advice?
TWQadmin
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Dec 21, 2004, 9:59 AM
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Re: [stehindm] My mother-in-law to be is asking too many questions
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When she specifically asks "How much did (insert item) cost?" answer something like "Probably way too much or "a nominal fee" or something tricky like that. if you stop answering the questions maybe she'll stop asking. Maybe. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dec 21, 2004, 10:08 AM
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Re: [stehindm] My mother-in-law to be is asking too many questions
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Dear My mother-in-law,
Good answer. I was going to say exactly the same thing. Usually, if you answer in a general way, people stop asking the direct questions because they find it a waste of time. It may take a few, "not much (s)" and "good bargain (s)" for her to get bored though. But, it should work.
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Or simply inform her that since she has done such a wonderful job of tracking prices, the two of you would be honored if she covers the cost for the next purchase. Say the honeymoon or perhaps all the catering :) Then proceed to ask her how much you can put her down for. If she has no intention of 'covering' anything, this should stop her from asking again. If she can cover costs, she can happily brag about the one item she contributed. Either way, this should put an end to it.
Good luck!
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Dec 21, 2004, 4:33 PM
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Hi,
My first advice is don't take it to personal. Even Mothers-in-Law are special in their own way. She may be feeling left out or that that she can't afford to pay "her share".
I would listen to her questions and be courteous in your response. But remember it is your wedding and the decisions should be made by your fiancé and you. If your Mother-in-law will be paying for some of the expenses she has a right to know. I don't think you want to cause her a financial burden so you can have the wedding you want?
Weddings are very stressful on everyone involved. Someone has to rise above it all and solve the 1,000's of issues that come up and make it a wonderful experience. Remember that a wedding is only a one day event in a life time of family relations.
My mother-in-law to be is asking too many questions
