I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly four years now and feel it has passed the time for us to become married people. I currently have a lot of debt as a result of stupid financial decisions made in the past. I always thought that these things need to be cleared before getting married but based on my analysis with my girlfriend we think that we are prepared to fight with theses financial concerns after we are married. I currently lecture part time at a Community College and she does data entry in a business process outsourcng company. I have not saved any money, but we believe that together we can do it. I have at least 170 people to attend the wedding which I have decided to keep in the early morning, so as to eliminate significantly the food costs.
Is it ok for me to become engaged now and then we can start planning for the next nine months to get married, I intend to get an on the side job so as to earn extra cash.
Over this time period I will most likely get back a permanent job, and other things should improve. Can I go ahead and get engaged and what is your advice regarding, how I may have the most economical wedding? I have already trimmed the wedding list and have my most important persons left on it. I beleive that with Prayers and good advice there is a way to do this. Please offer me all the advise you can, as to how I can do it, and have it stil be a memorable occassion. Thank you in advance.
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Nov 7, 2007, 6:24 AM
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Dear Oneilarmstrong, It is always better to prepare for your marriage with little or no debt. If you plan to work on your finances over the next 9 months, in addition to planning and spending on the wedding, you'll be putting additional strain on your finances and it could take a toll on your relationship. You can certainly propose and become engaged and then work out the financials. Then plan your wedding for 1 1/2 to 2 years from now. Starting on a better financial foot will earn you much more joy in planning your wedding and your life together. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
oneilarmstrong
Nov 8, 2007, 10:08 AM
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Good morning Nancy Tucker, I must tell you how thankful I am for your response. I have taken full thought on your response and is not rejecting it, I would like to ask however a few questions.
Is it impossible to achieve, over the next nine months, if you take into consideration our combined income of about $90,000.00 JMD and the fact that I have started to do some serious reviews as to how I can get certain aspects of the wedding done freely, such as; church, reception area, seating and some food matters, along with the fact that all my bridal party members are willing to pay for their attire? Also I am seriously moving to do some extra on the side jobs for extra income, which looks quite feasible.
Please let me know what you think, and in the process, I would like to find out what are the most prominent costs that would be incurred in getting married. Thanks Nancy, look forward to yours and other responses on my concerns.
Needs to plan wedding on a budget
