We have run into a problem! I am the bride and my family has rented a beautiful reception center for our wedding ceremony and reception. We had originally planned to have the luncheon after the ceremony at the reception place. The cost was high but we have warned my fiance's parents of this for the last few months! We gave them a heads' up on the median-range of the different meals we could choose from. At the planning meeting, it was myself, my mom, and my fiance's mom. It was pretty obvious the expense of the dinner hadn't hit her until we were trying to pick the meal. We also have a lot of guests... BUT, they are all from his side, both of my familes = 40 guests, his parents are divorced thus creating a total guest count of 120!!!
We have now tried to offer up some other ideas of how to scale back th expense, if we still have to have all the aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. then have it at a church and have his family help cater. OR we have found by looking online that it is more customary to only invite the bridal party, and immediate family. Which would scale down the guest count to 40. That way we could still use the expensive reception center we are paying for, but cut the cost by 2/3 and just be able to eat before the ceremony like a true rehersal dinner. the only problem is now his mom is wanting to do a dinner with the immediate family only the night before at a separate place... this was not our train of thought when we figured out cutting down the guest list... My mom, Dad, and I are now a little bummed out. We aren't sure what to do about this now? Do we just let his mom decide who to invite and totally where to have it? Or at what point can we intervene?! What can we do without offending her?
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Rehersal Dinner/ Ceremony
