I am in an upcoming wedding, June, and the bride wants to have an open bar for the wedding party and then an open bar to guests up to $300. This wedding will be of about 60-80 people. I tried to say in a nice way that that is not a good idea. She was mad and said that this wedding is for her and her fiance not for everyone else. I have a feeling that have the semi-cash bar will blow up in her face. This is also an out of town wedding in which many people will be driving and paying for a hotel. I feel that doing that will be very rude. Any advice?? Thanks.
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A good host always considers their guests comfort so, I agree with you 100% that asking guests to pay for anything at a wedding is impolite. Can you imagine inviting these same guests to your home, ofering them a cocktail and then serving them a bill? Argh... However, you have already told her your feelings. Other than showing her an etiquette book, (which I doubt will have any affect since she seems to have this "it's all about me" syndrome), there isn't much you can do.
Is there else who is close to - anyone she will listen to who can give her more advice? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jan 26, 2006, 10:02 AM
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I completely agree; this is inappropriate. You have great instincts. Perhaps you could also casually mention that you have been perusing the internet and found us. Maybe she will read what is acceptable if she is looking for other advice. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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