Should we postpone the wedding because of pregnancy?
I need help making this choice on whether to go ahead with the wedding this year or postpone it for one year. My fiance and I don't care either way. We love each other and know we are going to get married. But I found out this year that I'm pregnant and the baby is due in about a month and that only about 6 weeks before the wedding. This is our first child so we never realized about the expense of it all. We have run into some financial problems because of having to buy so much for the little one and I was EXTREMELY sick for a lot of the pregnancy which affected my pay checks. Now we could borrow the money from the bank, we know we can get it, but is it worth going into about 10K debt to pay for the wedding if we could just wait one year and do it ourselfs? Please help, neither of us want to make this choice, and we want an unbiased opinion.
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Keep in mind that this is opinion, not etiquette...
I agree - why go into debt for a one day event? Being married and having children is expensive.
My choice is always to be married before the arrival of the child. You can plan a simple ceremony and a wonderful party on a budget. We have many posts on how to host a wedding inexpensively. Any way you slice it, you'll be marrying your love with friends and family present and you'll be all settled when the baby arrives.
You might also consider having your ceremony now, before the baby arrives, and then have the reception later.
But, if you have contracts and deposits with vendors, you'll have to decide how, and if, you can either get out of the contracts or use their services at another time.
Here is an article on pregnant brideswhich you might find helpful. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I have to agree. And, this isn't based on etiquette either. It is just a personal opinion. You could have a small intimate wedding and a bash (reception) later. Even your reception could be less expensive than 10K. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Should we postpone the wedding because of pregnancy?
