I need some advice!My fiance and I are going to Vegas for a vacation.We decided while we are there we should get married on June 9th.We are definently on a budget.We pretty much want a cheap wedding so we can go on a nice honeymoon.We cant afford to pay for anyone's dinner, so we decided on a nice buffet, so that leads me to my question.How do I word on the invitation, we are not paying for dinner, but your more than welcome to come to this certain location and it is $25.00 a person?I would love for everyone to go. I just think it might be rude,do you? There's nothing else I can do.I want my family together.
Yes, it would be rude. The simple rule is: you invite, you pay. So, if you invite guests, you are expected to pay for them. Your only other option is not to include a meal. Or, elope and have a reception back home.
I understand that, but I feel like if you give them notice in advance then they can choose if they want to go or not. My family is not the typical family, they understand why I would have to choose to do this. They are a very understanding family. I know on a "typical" wedding all this money is forked out, but when you dont have that kind of money and your family knows this I do not see why I cant not give them notice. I was just hoping I could get advice from you for my invitation.
There is no way I can tell you how to do something that is impolite and unfair to guests. If you invite, you should host. It doesn't matter how understanding others are. If you can't afford to host the event, it shouldn't be hosted. That is the bottom line. If you still want to do this knowing that it is considered impolite, then I'm sorry, you will have to find your own way to do it.
The problem you are having with the invitations is that this is never mentioned on the invitations and it isn't polite. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I am going to look into champagne and cake after the wedding. If that works out for me then I can let people know where im going to go for dinner and if they want to go then they can go, if not thats fine to. What do you think about the champagne and cake option?
That is perfect if this will be held when your guests don't expect to eat a meal. And, as long as you aren't inviting your guests to dinner, you are good to go.
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