My fiance & I are getting married in the Spring. Most of the planning has been done and now my future mother in law wants us to have a catholic ceremony prior to our already planned, so that our marriage will be recognized by the church. I did not grow up going to church AT ALL. Can our marriage be "blessed" by A priest after we get married if there is no mention of religion at our already planned ceremony/reception. I feel really lost and out numbered in this situation. I am ok with the catholic ceremony, I just don't want to "put on a show" for all of our guests at our scheduled day. HELP
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My first question is "Where is your future husband" in all of this? You stated you felt "alone and outnumbered" so my concern is what position your intended has taken on this matter. First and formost, you both need to sit down and have a serious discussion together. Your future mother-in-law isn't getting married, you are. So you need to have a plan ironed out as a couple. Not you, him and his mom.
To answer your basic question, yes, you can go and have your marriage "blessed" by the RCIA after. It's called a Convalidation. As far as having a catholic ceremony before what you have already planned means that you are having a catholic wedding and then a civil (non-denominational) wedding. It wouldn't make any sense, once your married your married.
If you choose to have a catholic ceremony as your first choice then that would and should be the only ceremony you have. If you decide to continue with what you already have planned then you can approach the RCIA afterwards for a convalidation ceremony. Essentially a blessing.
Either way, it's a decision that needs to be made by you and your future husband.
2 weddings? Catholic & non-denominational
