Catholic decides to be married in a Lutheran church
Please help!! My fiance and I began planning our wedding. I come from a pretty strong Catholic family and he comes from a pretty strong Methodist family. We discussed how we would raise our children and neither of us are exactly sure, but he is sure that he does not want them raised Catholic. I was raised Catholic but can see where he is coming from. We decieded together that we could get married in a Lutheran Church. We began the wedding planning. I spoke with my dad. He told me that it was against his religion and that he would not be able to attend the wedding I was a emotional rollercoaster. One week later he said he would support us. But I feel like people (Catholics) will think I am a terrible person for being married (against) my raised religion. My sisters,mom,stepdad,his family are behind us no matter what we deciede to do. How do I help myself not feel like I am a terrible person for this? I love my fiance and would do anything for him. Please Help, thank you
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RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Apr 10, 2007, 6:18 PM
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If you came into my office, I would ask you, "Do you know with absolute certainty, within the deepest core of your being, that this man (your fiance`) is your life partner and soul mate?" If the answer is "Yes." I would then advise you to trust that, and let the rightness of that be your strength and beacon light. Who created this love in the first place? Love is of God.
Do you feel guilty because of what you were taught? (I was raised Catholic. I also work with many intermarrying Catholics.) Or do you really feel heart and soul that you are doing something wrong? You must separate these two.
Jesus taught us to love all people, accept all people and forgive all people. Forgive those who reject those of a different tradition, but remain true to your own heart and soul. When in doubt, ask God for courage and guidance. The word courage comes from the Latin word for heart.
Catholic decides to be married in a Lutheran church
