My husband is a non-practicing Methodist, I am Catholic, though I've not been to Mass since my mother passed away Christmas of '05. My husband and I dated from Valentine's Day in '06 and married May 30, 2008 with the Justice of the Peace at our local courthouse. I have read up on having a Convalidation ceremony, to restore my state of grace and to be able to participate in the Sacraments again. I am not a "cradle Catholic", at the same time, my mom, half-brother and I went through the RCIA classes and were baptized into the Church in 1996. When my mother passed away, that was the last time I went to Confession and received absolution, so I know I'll have to do that again, I have no problem with that because there are a lot of heavy burdens that I need lifted from my heart and soul. I was however scared to find out that my husband and I are considered "living in sin" and that it is a mortal sin. I know I will have to confess this to the priest, but am unsure how to bring it up?
DennyandKay
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Re: Convalidation Ceremony and Confession?
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Please talk with your local priest. He will be able to advise you.
When you ask about convalidation, the subject of "living in sin" and the need for confession will come up automatically. You won't have to figure out a diplomatic way to broach the subject. In fact, your priest will most likely be quite pleased that you want to have your marriage blessed by the Church and will be very helpful.
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I guess that's just it, I'm afraid that the priest won't be happy with the length of time it has taken me to take these steps. My husband and I will be celebrating our first anniversary next Saturday, the 30th. I'm the kind of person that I don't care what people think of me, but I care extremely of what God thinks of me. And also, my husband is an OTR truck driver, so he's gone all week and usually home very shortly on most weekends. He won't get vacation time until next January. I've heard conflicting information about counseling, that you have to go through the same time of pre-marital counseling as if you're marrying in the Church. I don't know if that's true or not, but if so, then it would be perfect for us because of my husband's work schedule. Please pray for my husband and I as we take these steps, I know I'm full of questions that can only be answered by my priest, but I'm just afraid. I know that God knows what is in my heart, but even safe in that knowledge, there is fear.
Convalidation Ceremony and Confession?
