I am not Catholic, but my fiance's family is Catholic. He was baptized and only goes to church on Christmas and only when his grandmother asks him to attend. His family is threatening not to attend our wedding unless we marry in the Catholic church. I have nothing against the religion, but I have always pictured my wedding as an outdoor event. The idea that they are preventing us from marrying unless it is done a certain way is very upsetting. My fiance wants his family to be there, and so do I. My family understands both sides, but is against it because they know my feelings. We got engaged Christmas Eve and still haven't made a single plan. Is there any way to make both me and my fiance's family happy? Is there a way to make it Catholic without making me give up all my plans?
Sarah
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DennyandKay
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Sep 6, 2008, 12:48 PM
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Re: I don't want to be married Catholic
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For the most part, the Catholic Church requires its members to abide by the rules set up in canon law. As a baptised Catholic, your fiance is bound to obey these rules, if he intends to remain in good standing with the Catholic Church.
Outdoor weddings are permissible at a Catholic grotto, shrine, or other sacred place accepted by his priest. There will most likely be a minimum of decorations, however. This may be a way to satisfy both families and still allow you to have your plans of an outdoor wedding.
Please keep in mind that a wedding is only one day. Your marriage and the relationships between you and your in-laws are "until death" parts you. Compromise is a big part of marriage and life itself. This might be a good time for members of both families to start practicing the love of God toward one another.
I don't want to be married Catholic
