My fiance and I are in a bit of a dilimma, neither one of us cares where the wedding would be held, we're both very accepting of eachothers backgrounds and religions and strive to learn about eachothers triditions. But we both know that our families would be hurt especially his if the wedding was to be held in a church. We want to keep both sides happy, without insulting anyone. Any suggestions?
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edited by dreama on Aug 4, 2005, 1:39 PM)
You've pretty much answered your own question! You are being married and being the bride and groom, you're both very open to "where." Your families, as you share, would be hurt it your ceremony was held in a church. So, consider a non-denominational chapel that you could possibly rent, a home, garden venue, waterside or any location for your wedding ceremony that perhaps has meaning to you both! Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Officiant & Minister
I agree with annemjuhlian . There are plenty of beautiful, romantic and spiritual locations to have a wedding. God is not limited to a building, neither should your ceremony! Pastor Buddy http://www.smokeymountainwedding.org/aboutus.htm
You need to approach your families honestly and with great sensitivity. My book has so many of these stories from couples like yourselves. I also offer tender counsel for working with family on the sensitive issues.
You can try a University Chapel that doesn't feel too churchlike AND have a chuppah, or you can marry out-of-doors under the stars. Where there is love, there is sanctity. Do the research. Learn your options. Google. Communicate between yourselves. THEN approach your families in a united front.
My books has suggestions on every aspect of interfaith wedding ceremony planning...including the place, the logistics, the words, the rituals, the officiants etc.
With two traditions, you are twice blessed!
An interfaith ceremony, done properly, is an enlightening, unifying memorable experience for all. Approached with open hearts, you can each grow and expand, becoming richer inside.
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