I am from Alabama, non denominational, and my fiance is from greek Orthodox family in PA. I have agreed to the classes prior to the wedding and to the greek orthodox ceremony with priest. Problem: the in laws want a chapel wedding and my budget and dream is for the beach. In addition they expect open bar which I am also accomodating. Haven't I compromised enough? The cost of the chapel or church rental plus additional items will deleniate from the good food and "reception party" afterwards. (The beach is free). Please help.
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What is your fiance saying about all of this? I would have him discuss this with his parents, without you present. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 28, 2004, 7:49 AM
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My fiance is not very religious and of course wants his bride and mother to be happy. He has told his parents of my situation as of last night. The fallout was not as bad as I expected actually but I have noticed these parents tend to make mountains out of molehills and then it ends up being something that is not really a big deal to them. (I think it is for the sake of the rest of the family). I will see what the next corner brings me. Thank you, Wendy
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My opinion is that it is not up to anyone but the bride and groom to make any decisions about your wedding. Any compromises you make for the benefit of your families is going above and beyond, and the appropriate response from them should be to thank you for the things you are doing and leave it at that.
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I disagree. If you love your family members, their feelings should also be considered to some extent. I am not saying that they should "run the show" by any means but IF you can accomodate their wishes into your wedding plans without compromising too much then why not? I am certian that most parents have compromised their plans for their children manny, many times before. My motto is "pick your battles" and make as many people happy as you possibly can with as much compromise as you can stand. Weddings shouldn't be a war of who is in charge. Besides, many times you'll come to learn that MOM WAS RIGHT! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Nov 3, 2004, 12:12 PM
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Are you in-laws willing to pay for that which they request?
Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
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